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Try to Get Adopted By Someone

2025-07-31
5 min read

The Kind of Adoption I'm Talking About

Some people get lucky and are born into love.
The rest? They find it along the way.

When I say "adoption," you probably picture a child finding a home. But what if I told you there's another kind - equally powerful, beautiful, and life-changing?

I'm not talking about legal documents or court hearings. I'm talking about life choosing you back.

It's the kind of adoption that unfolds quietly, no paperwork or formalities. Without signatures or ceremonies. It happens in friendships that turn into family, in mentorships that become lifelines, in unspoken bonds that feel as deep and binding as blood.

We spend our lives searching for someone who'll pick us - not because they have to, but simply because they want to. Someone who sees your worth, your quirks, your dreams, your messy contradictions - and says, "I choose this person. I choose them willingly."

That's the adoption we all secretly crave. And when you find it? You've truly won at life.


The Moment That Made Me Write This

Just the other day, I was on a call with my sister.

Not by blood, but by heart.

We've known each other since school - I was a senior, she was a junior. Over time, she just… became mine. And I became hers. No dramatic moment. No official declaration. It just happened, the way real family does.

We were talking about our school's silver jubilee. I asked her to attend it on my behalf since I'm in Sydney.

She laughed and said something that hit me way harder than she probably intended:

"If I go, people will probably say, oh hey, that's Sreekar's sister… all thanks to our Instagram stories."

She said it jokingly. But me? I just paused.

Someone, somewhere might look at her and call her my sister.
She carries my name in her world.
A part of me lives in her story, and a part of her lives in mine.

That moment - that tiny, casual sentence - made me feel like I'd already won at life.


What "Adoption" Really Means

That's when I realized: we all want to be adopted.

Not just as kids. Not just when we're lonely. We want someone to claim us. To pick us. To say, "You're mine" - even if there's no obligation, no reason, no bloodline forcing them to.

Look around you. It's happening everywhere:

When a friend decides to stay through your mess - that's adoption.
When a senior mentors you and protects you like family - that's adoption.
When a kid looks up to you and carries forward your values - that's adoption.
When a partner says "you're home" - that's adoption too.
When a parent passes on their traits – that’s adoption.
When a teacher goes out of their way to believe in you - that's adoption.
When you help a street stranger without expecting anything back - that's adoption.
When you donate your organs to save a life you'll never meet - that's adoption.
When neighbors become the family you call in emergencies - that's adoption.
When someone chooses to stay in your corner when the whole world walks away - that's adoption.

It's not about grand gestures. It's about small, consistent choices to keep someone close.


Not Everyone Will Adopt You (And That's Okay)

Here's the truth: you won't be adopted by everyone.

Most people will flow in and out of your life. Some will stick around for years, others just for moments. And that's perfectly normal.

But even if just one person - just one - chooses you for who you are, flaws and all, that's enough to know you're doing something right in life.

And if someone, someday, introduces themselves by mentioning you - "I'm her person," "I'm his brother," "She's like family to me" - hold on to that with both hands.

Because in a world where most things are temporary, chosen family is one of the rare things that can last forever.


Try to Get Adopted. And Adopt Others Too.

So here's my advice: Try to get adopted.

Not by force. Not by begging or clinging. But by living in a way that makes someone want to claim you.

Be the kind of person people want in their lives forever - not because you're perfect, but because you're present, genuine, and reliable. Show up. Listen. Care. Be the friend you'd want to have.

And just as importantly… adopt others too.

Be someone's mentor. Someone's older sibling. Someone's "I've got your back" human. You don't need shared ancestry to create a sense of family. You just need heart.

Look for the people who feel a little lost, a little overlooked. The ones who might be waiting for someone to choose them. And then? Choose them.

Because here's what I've learned: the moment you adopt someone else, you get adopted too.


The Real Measure of Success

Forget the fancy titles. Forget the follower counts. Forget the salary figures.

Real success? It's when someone genuinely and openly claims you as theirs.

It's being someone's emergency contact - not legally, but emotionally.
It's being the person someone calls when life gets complicated.
It's knowing that somewhere in this world, you matter deeply to another human being.

That's the kind of wealth money can't buy. That's the kind of success that actually makes you feel successful.


Final Thought

We're all walking around, hoping to be chosen. Hoping to matter. Hoping someone will look at us and think, "This one. This one is mine."

But maybe the secret isn't just waiting to be adopted.
Maybe it's also about doing the adopting.

So go ahead. Pick someone. Choose them. Let them know they belong somewhere - with you.

Because sometimes, the family that matters most isn't the one you're born into.
It's the one you choose - and that chooses you back.

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